Hope Ambassador Yash
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Book Review: Life is Short (No Pun Intended)
We started the adoption process 3 years ago, in June. Our boys have been home for 10 months.
For the past 10 months, I would say the most consistent question people ask, after "How are the boys doing?" is "And how are your girls?"
"Fine. Good. Great. I mean, it’s a transition, but they’re great."
My girls would even tell you they were great. The boys were great. Family life was great. Yep, everything was juuuuuuust great.
But it wasn’t. It was hard. Really hard. And my girls were being affected. The thing is, they didn’t even really know it themselves. But I could see it. I could see the jealousy. I could see them withdrawing. I could see the attention-seeking behaviors and the acting out. I could see the tears. I could see the tantrums. I could see the non-existent ailments that were made up every single day. I knew about the trips to the nurse’s office at school that were so numerous that one daughter had to be told she couldn’t come in anymore unless something was really wrong. And it Broke. My. Heart.
We gave them as much attention as we could. We took them on date nights and let them stay up past their bedtimes to spend more time with us. I KNEW that this was God’s plan for our family. I KNEW that He loves my kids even more than I do. I KNEW that following God’s will and trying to emulate Him the best we can is the best way to show our kids His glory and love. I KNEW that "He who began a good work would be faithful to complete it." (Phil 1:6)
I knew all these things and when I kept my eyes focused only on the Lord, I had faith. But, then, there were the moments….the moments of extreme hardness. The moments that I let myself settle into the hardness and become overcome by it all. The moments that I took my focus off of Him and let the fear and anxiety and guilt take over. The moments that I gave in and let my mind run amok with the questions…"Was this a terrible idea?" "Is this damaging my girls?" "Did we just ruin their easy, ‘perfect’ lives?" "Was this the best decision for THEM?" "Are they going to be OK? I knew these thoughts were not from the Lord and when I refocused my thoughts on Him, I would know how completely wrong those thoughts were. But the thoughts were always still there…buried deep, nagging, lingering, waiting for me to let them out. WERE my girls going to be ok?
And then…my 10-year old had to write a persuasive speech for school. It was a competition. Each class would choose a winner and the winners would compete in front of all the 5-8th graders, the teachers, parents and a panel of judges. She chose, “Think about adoption.” She wrote the whole thing on her own, with no help from us and a tiny input from her teacher. She was a nervous wreck before she presented it to her class. We talked about it and prayed about it. She overcame her fear and presented to her class. She was chosen as the winner of her class and told she would compete against the other winners the following week. And then she really got nervous. The night before the competition, my husband told her, "You know, it’s okay if you don’t win." She said, "I know. I’ve been thinking about it. It’s not about winning anymore. I’ve got something important to say and this is my chance to say it to everyone."
The day of the speech came. My husband and I went to watch her. And something spectacular happened. The Spirit spoke through her that day. She spoke with such ease and wisdom and truth and conviction. When she finished, I was in tears. My husband was in tears. Parents around me were in tears. It was silent in the cafeteria. And it was then that I knew. Adoption hadn’t ruined her life. It had transformed it. Adoption had allowed the Lord to work in her little life in ways He couldn’t have before. In that moment, she had become a spokesperson, an advocate, a defender of the orphan! And in that moment, I realized, my kids were gonna be more than okay…they were gonna be great!
Oh yeah, and…she won first place!
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