Older Child Adoption
, Sibling Adoption
, Adoption Process
Going from a single man to a father of three, what was I thinking?!
I adopted three wonderful children from Brazil in 2007. At that time my oldest son was ten, my middle son was nine, and my daughter was four. Brazil encourages keeping siblings together, so rather than learning about one child waiting for a family, I found three all at once.
Once CEJA sent pictures of my children, it was a matter of a month and I was off to Brazil to meet them. When I arrived in Brazil, I met my representative, Luiz. He has since become a family friend who I have remained in contact with throughout the years. He speaks four languages and was a blessing to have around through the entire process!
A bonding period of 30 days is required before the adoption is finalized in Brazil. During this time you are encouraged to spend time getting to know your children and enjoying the rich heritage found in the surrounding areas of Sao Paulo. Also, you meet periodically with the social worker who helps the children during their transition period. This was a great time for my kids and me: I learned a lot about their birth country which prepared me for helping them transition to their new life in the United States.
In Brazil, time is not as important as it is to us in the United States. It is part of the very laid back culture. Patience during the entire process is key. Courts are not open the entire day and waiting is part of the process.
Back in the United States my kids thrived in the public education system—trying to learn English as quickly as possible. The older they get, the more they want to learn. However, it was and is very difficult to encourage them to continue to speak their native language.
Adopting older children does have its hurdles and adjustments, but it has been a life-changing experience. My three children are loving, each in their own way. They have adjusted very well to their new life and have come to understand the value of a forever family. I have come to learn the blessing each child can be in my life and am truly thankful I have been given such a fantastic opportunity to be the father of my three wonderful children.
People always stop me and tell me, “Your kids are so lucky.”
To this I reply, “No, I am the lucky one.” My three children are a true gift.
Lutheran Social Service of Minnesota was not authorized to complete adoptions in Brazil at the time of my adoption. However, they played a huge part in my adoption homestudy and the completion of my adoption. They were there for me during my stay in Brazil if I had questions or if something came up. The staff was there to help me every step of the way.
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With a combined 275 years of experience, Children’s Home Society of Minnesota and Lutheran Social Service of Minnesota serve children and families through adoption, child welfare, and family preservation. We are driven by the understanding that a child in a safe, nurturing home is a child who thrives. We work to give every child security, opportunity and a loving family. Through our partnership, we offer the following services to families nationwide. We encourage you to visit the Lutheran Social Service Rainbow Kids page to view additional country programs.
International & Domestic Adoption — Respected for our legacy of excellence in adoption services, Children's Home and Lutheran Social Service believe that every child deserves a permanent, loving family. Today the need for adoption is most urgent for older children, sibling groups, children with a history of abuse and neglect, and children with known medical and special needs.
Post-Placement Support & Connections — Children's Home and Lutheran Social Service are committed to supporting all members of the adoption circle throughout their lifelong journey. We are proud to offer educational and cultural events, travel, search and background services, and opportunities to connect to the larger adoption community.
International Child Welfare — Children's Home and Lutheran Social Service recognize an inherent responsibility to improve the quality of life in countries where we facilitate international adoption. We support targeted, community-based projects that provide care, protection, health and education to vulnerable children around the world.