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The international adoption process has changed dramatically within the last 6-8 years. The wait times to adopt internationally have grown, and there no longer are countries that are “easy” or a quick processes.
Adoption is one of the most significant decisions a family can make.
As strange as it may sound, we always suggest that families be very selfish in this decision, and consider carefully all of the following factors:
This list can go on and on.
When the family is unanimous that adoption will benefit the entire family, and they are emotionally prepared to adopt, Ukraine may be one of the best options for them. Ukraine offers many advantages in comparison with other countries if the family is hoping to proceed and complete an adoption in a timely manner.
Ukraine permits the following adoption situations:
The Ministry of Social Policy in Ukraine does not allow families to receive medical information on children prior to traveling. The family must obtain this information during a meeting at the Ministry. It is imperative that the placing agency the family is working with properly prepares them prior to travel to ask the right questions and connects the family prior with knowledgeable international adoption MD’s to quickly and thoroughly assess the medical information for the children. This is the best way to protect the family and the child from completing an adoption the adoptive parents are not adequately able to care for. If the family feels they can meet the needs of the child, it is most likely to be the right placement and everybody benefits.
Each adoptive family must be diligent to ensure that the agency they are working with is knowledgeable and ethical, and works with an experienced coordinator in that country who is fully committed to walking the family through every stage of the process.
An Outline of the process to adopt from Ukraine:
Each adoptive family can break the process into 2-4 trips if they are unable to stay for the entire time.
If the family is not comfortable with the child and not ready to take on a certain background or medical condition, they have two or more opportunities to meet with the Ministry representative. The families need to consult with their placing agencies to make sure their documents are within the required time range if a second or third trip with the Ministry are scheduled.
Adoption from Ukraine is a good option for families who are married, as Ukraine does not allow single parent adoptions. It offers an opportunity for a family to complete an adoption within a year if they are open to a child 5 years and up, and/or to sibling groups.
Our main suggestion is to educate yourself about certain medical conditions you may be comfortable with, including attachment and bonding issues. You can contact international adoption specialists such as the following:
Dr. Jenista: email@example.com OR (734)-668-0419
Dr. Bledsoe and Dr. Davies: (206) 598-3000
Dr. Ron Federici: firstname.lastname@example.org OR (703) 830-6052
Or, you can read books such as:
“Adopting the Hurt Child” or “Parenting the Hurt Child” by Dr. Keck
“Parenting with Love and Logic” by Keefer and Schooler
“Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child” by Keefer and Schooler
We, as an agency, are always open for conference calls and meetings to answer questions and to guide families in this exciting and life changing journey.
Please ask questions, understand the process, and what you can and can’t do. We are always glad to help and be a resource for you.
Inna Pecar, MSW, LCSW
Director of KidsFirst Adoption and originally
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