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An adoptive parent stopped by our offices for a visit with her two adopted children. One child was adopted several years ago from Eastern Europe, the second was adopted from Africa. It always makes my day to see firsthand the benefits of adoption to our children and families.
Over the years in working in adoption, I have had many “heartfelt” experiences involving visiting children in orphanages as well as adopted children after they came home to their new families. This visit though, brought new tears to my eyes as well as to the other MLJ team members present.
Every adopted child has a history. Some children know their history well including memories of their birth family, time spent in an orphanage, the trip to the U.S. or Canada and all the painful or scary feelings they had while going through these experiences. Other children, if abandoned early in life may not know their histories, have no memory of a biological family or only remember their time in an orphanage and/or foster care. Of our two visitors this day, one child had vivid memories of his past and was willing to share some of them with us. The other child only had memories of of being in an orphanage and foster care. These memories can be painful and hard to listen to for an adoptive parent. Following are a few tips for adoptive parents to remember:
I am honored to say I and the rest of the MLJ team are a small part of these children’s history and memories. I was honored by their visit and the opportunity to listen to their memories, stories of their pasts and the feelings that accompanied what they went through. They were both very engaging and eager to share with us. I know in my heart these children will do well and have much to offer the world.
A huge thank you to this family for allowing the MLJ team to be present in their lives. My heart is overjoyed to see how far these children have come and how their lives have been changed.
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