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Hope Ambassador Elisia
While driving, I have a tendency to read the signs posted at churches and businesses. You know, the ones that give a small bit of life advice and awareness. This morning I saw one that said, “Life Begins When You Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone.” How true that statement is for those who decide to adopt, especially internationally!
Stepping out of our personal comfort zone is not done lightly in most cases. Unless overwhelmed by peer pressure or boredom, we tend to analyze, think about, research and prepare to make that big step. We want to be sure we are doing the right thing. That is certainly the way most of our prospective adoptive parents come to international adoption. They spend months, even years, looking at their family situation, talking with friends and family, researching adoption via books and on line, contemplating the challenges and rewards, and some even travel to see a country beforehand via mission trips. Then they make that final joyous decision to help an orphan find permanency in a loving home—-theirs!
The next months after that decision are filled with anticipation, paperwork, fund raising, paperwork, education, paperwork, meeting other adoptive families, and yes, more paperwork! Bedrooms are prepared, toys are purchased and events are attended as the prospective parents get ready for their child to come home. When one’s referral is accepted and the legal matters are finalized, the big day arrives. You have your child! This is when the face-to-face journey with your adopted child begins and you are truly out of your comfort zone.
The first weeks and months can be stressful as you and your child get to know each other, bond, establish routines, test foods and preferences, learn each other’s demeanors, break language barriers, acculturate your child to America, and find common ground. Sometimes it is not easy, but it is a necessary step to build trust, comfort levels, and understanding. Parents often ask how they could have been more prepared for this time or more understanding of the challenges ahead. Could I have been more prepared for this new life which is truly outside of my personal comfort zone? The answer is YES.
The waiting stage is the perfect time to prepare. You have time on your hands and you are enthusiastic about the upcoming adoption. It is the perfect storm of desire and availability. You can help yourself be a bit more ready for adoption by taking these steps:
These steps will help you to say “I’M READY” FOR ADOPTION when your adopted child finally comes home. Although this new parenting experience will surely take you out of your comfort zone, you will have taken these extra steps to more fully assure that you are prepared for the challenges that lie ahead and able to help your child achieve permanency for the first time in their life. Not only will that child’s life begin anew, but yours will too. Enjoy the journey!
MLJ Adoptions is a Hague Accredited International Adoption Agency based in Indianapolis, Indiana. We provide ethical, compassionate and attentive adoption services to loving and committed families from across the United States and around the world. We’ve successfully placed over two hundred and fifty children through our international adoption programs in Bulgaria, Burkin...Learn more, see kids, or contact agency 617 E. North Street Indiana
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