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Older Child Adoption Adoption Disruption Therapy

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  Written by Adoption Agency Professional on 07 Jan 2015

RainbowKids Editor's Note:  Many terms have been used (re-homing, disrupted-adoption)  to describe the very difficult situation of a child who has been adopted and can no longer continue to live with their adoptive family.  This article, and any article on the RainbowKids website concerning this topic, focuses on LEGAL re-adoption, in which an adoptive family has received counseling services and is working with a legal Adoption Service Provider to acheive the child's best interest.  

The purpose of this article is to help prospective families who may be considering the adoption of a child who must transition to a new family,  decide if Legal Re-adoption might be a fit for their family.    It is imperative that experienced families only, who are well preparred and have the necessary emotional, therapeutic, and educational resources and skills, put themselves forward as prospective families.  Children who have experienced trauma and loss need the flexibility and support of special families.

Why Isn't There More Information About Legal Re-Adoption?

Agencies and advocating websites are hesitant to discuss Legal RE-adoption due to all the potential for negative press and controversy.

Agencies and advocates  fear that  our international partners will be uncomfortable with  any negative adoption  press especially negative press and that might  potentially result in less children getting adopted  or  re-adopted. However  we still  need to continue  our refinement of best practices  for  legal  re-adoption and we need to advocate for children and recruit qualified families for legal re-adoption. This article purpose is to help families decide if readoption might be for them.     

After all other attempts to help the family and child stay together have been exhausted, there are a small percentage of  children  that  need re-adoption. Some agencies  are committed to finding these children new homes. Some agencies only help the children they have arranged the adoption for,  other agencies will work with all families in need and some do not arrange any re-adoptions. 

Why is Legal readoption needed?

 Of course we want all adoptions to be successful  and the majority are. No matter what our personal opinions are on re-adoption, there are situations when a child's best interest is served by being placed into a new adoptive family. Some of these include:

  • Long-term rejection of the current adoptive family, or one of the adoptive parents. Even with counseling and intervention, sometimes it is the CHILD or young teen that consistently requests a new placement.
  • An undisclosed issue by the orphanage has resulted in the child being placed with a family without the experience to parent a child struggling in a specific way.
  • Sometimes kids need another chance for an adoptive  family and sometimes they just need a new family in order to accept adoption
  • At times, a child has a serious issue and hasn't gotten the right  medical or psychological attention they need
  • A child may be in danger in their adoptive family or there is fear they may harm  others in the family or themselves 

There are many reasons for re-adoption but the solution often includes a  new  parent(s).

Part 1: A Checklist to Help Determine if you are a Good Candidate to Legally Re-Adopt

These are typical initial questions our agency asks families interested in re-adoption.

  1. Have you adopted before?
  2. Have you never disrupted an adoption?
  3. Have you adopted an older child before?
  4. Have you adopted internationally before?
  5. Have you been a Foster Parent?
  6. Have you gone through challenges with your other adoptions?
  7. What were your biggest challenges please describe?
  8. How did you handle them?
  9. Do any of your other adopted children have emotional, psychological or behavioral or medical needs ?
  10. Are any of these similar to the child you are interested in readopting?
  11. Have you sought outside assistance including counseling to get through rough spots with your adopted child?
  12. Do you have any experience parenting a child with RAD, physical, emotional or  sexual  abuse, ADHD, post traumatic stress disorder, or the  effects of institutional neglect, post institutional trauma?
  13. Do you have health insurance to cover this child?
  14. Do you have a current home study, an older home study you can get updated or are you willing to get a home study quickly?

After answering the above questions, it is important to explore personally and with your spouse (and possibly older children within the home) the following:

  • Does this readoption make sense for the whole family at this time?
  • Can we provide  one on one attention especially through the transition period?
  • Are you able to commit to this child and help them no matter what arises - do you have the experience and resources to fulfill that commitment?

Part 2 Financial Questions to Ask the Placing Agency: 

  • Does the agency charge you a  listing fee just to be on their list to contact you for  any possible readoptions? Some agencies do not - some do.
  • If there is a listing fee how often do you have to pay this fee?
  • What if they send you no profiles of children - do you get a reimbursement of your listing fee?   
  • Will  you be contacted for every  child in need of readoption each year or just  subset?
  • Does the agency require  a full  application  fee even if you are not  yet selected as a readoption family? Some agencies require an application fee ONLY  if you are the selected as the second family.

Common Main Fees for Readoption:

A re-adoption of a child placed international with a USA family is considered a Domestic Adoption, because the child is now a US Citizen.  Most Licensed Adoption Service Providers charge a minimum of fees, and true emphasis is placed upon finding the 'right' permanent and committed family for the child.  This is a very challenging process.  The new adoptive family can expect the following expenses:

  • TRAVEL: Accommodations and travel to the child's US state of residence.  Your family is usually responsible for travel and your accommodations to the child’s home in the US  as well as the child’s travel back to your home.
  • Some agencies can require a 3 days to 21 day transition period so you will need to cover you travel and accommodations as well.
  • Legal fees for your attorney for a private domestic adoption.
  • agency  application- on average $250-$350 (estimate)
  • agency processing fee- approximately $1500-3000? (estimate)
  • Cost of a home study or home study update (amount depends on your homestudy provider)
  • Social worker reports (usually quarterly) the first year-$300- $600  typically a visit
  • Attorney fees for documents and finalization services in your local court (amount varies by state)
  • Certified birth certificate expense (amount varies by state)

Don't forget to check with  your tax consultant to find out if these adoption expenses will be reimbursed with the Federal Adoption Tax Credit.

Part 3: What  Information Will You Receive on the Child?

Families considering the adoption of a child who has experienced multiple placements and is currently in need of a new family should seek as much information on the child's history as possible. Some questions may include:

  • Will the agency provide redacted child's information in  a file for you to review? 
  • Will the file include a profile  of written answers  to questions by the frst  parents, the original adoption file, birth certificates, passports, medical information, dental records, psychological reports, IEP, report cards,  photos, video  and  post placement reports?
  • Will the agency  provide an introductory letter of  the child to you?
  • Will the agency provide  a letter explaining the legal guidelines and responsibilities  for  the re-adopting family? 
  • Will the agency provide a letter explaining the legal guidelines and responsibilities of the first family and what documents they must provide to you?
  • Will you be provided with a timeline of all the major moves and events in the childs life including any respite situations?
  • Will you be able to email questions via the agency anonymously to the  first family before deciding?
  • Will you be able to send the child's file for review to your health care provider and adoption specialists?
  • Will you have access to a compilation of all the questions asked and answered from  all the other interested families? 
  • Will the agency keep you updated on other interested families and back-up families' status and interest level?
  • Will the agency keep sending you updated information?

 Who Decides if Your Family  is Appropriate for the Child?

Once a family has determined that they are open to adopting a child who is in need of a new adoptive family, they may be anxious to proceed.  There are times when a family may have even learned of a specific child in this situation.  It remains essential that any prospective adoptive family understand that adoption is a child-centered process.  Though a family may self-determine that they are a 'good match' for a child, it remains in the hands of the current adoptive family, social workers, and the legal adoption service provider to make the final determination.  Knowing this, a family may wish to ask the ASP the following questions:

  • Does the current family have any consideration in choosing a new family?
  • Does the agency screen the prospective families and  then recommend only one family to the first  family or are a  few families recommended for the family to approve?
  • If the child is older when will they be involved if at all in the decision?
  •  Will you know if the first family is open to all types of families?
  • Will you be informed as  to post placement reports required by the agency and/or international  or national governments ?
  • Will the family accept your  gender, marital status, religion, race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation? 
  • Will an international government's requirements for parents be a factor in this readoption?
  • Will post placement reports be required?
  • Once a commitment is made to re-adopt the child - do you have direct contact with the first family without agency involvement?
  • Does the agency allow contact with  the child before or only after a commitment is made to readopt?  In order to protect this vulnerable  child from further disappointment some agencies only allow contact after a commitment is made. 

 Part 4 : After you are selected:

Once you have been selected, the Transition Plan will need to be negotiated/determined. If possible, a letter, or video to the child to introduce yourselves should be sent. This limited contact, even if done only a few days before meeting the child, can help the child process and accept the upcoming changes. Some  agencies allow  some contact including phone calls, emails  and Skype depending on the child's age and status -some do not.

We often recommend only contact  with the child after the decision is made to protect the child form furthere disappointment. 

Post Re-Adoption Support:

The entire first year with your newly adopted child may be considered the Transition Period.  Having an action plan, that includes social, family, and professional support is essential.  While working through the pre-adoption stage, families should ask the placing agency about their post-adoption supports. What services can they provide to help you after the readoption is complete?  

After many years working as an adoption professional, I have personally seen many successful re-adoptions that are great fits for the child and second family.  It is the most satisfying experience to facilitate this match.  It is my hope that the above information will assist prospective families who are open to parenting one of these special children.

 




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