Book Review: Old Mikamba Had a Farm by Rachel Isadora
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Boogers, Sword Fights, Mud, Trains, and Cars.
After going through the emotions of dealing with fertility issues, my husband and I realized we just wanted to be parents. We wanted to be able to love and share our life with a child. It didn’t matter to us how that child came into our lives.
When we started looking into our adoption options, we quickly learned that there were more boys than girls that needed a family to call their own. We were also told that if the two of us were open to minor needs, our process might go faster because we wouldn’t have to wait as long for a referral. At the time, we were in our early forties and wanted to build our family as quickly as possible, so we said we’d be open to boys and minor needs.
When we found out about Cole, the beautiful boy who is now our son, he was 15 months old. Now he is a bouncy, bubbly, six-year-old boy that likes cars, planes, and Legos. He loves fishing and looking for bugs and thinks it is funny when he makes toot noises. And we can’t imagine life without him! For these reasons and so many more, he has become such a big part of us. We are blessed beyond anything we ever thought possible.
We understand how much information families thinking about adoption need to consider. For this reason, we want to highlight a few of the lessons we learned through our personal adoption experience. We hope this will answer some of your questions and maybe give you some peace of mind and heart.
It’s important to remember the highlights, for this reason we want to note some of the pros of our adoption process:
That being said, the adoption process is hard. Here are some of the cons we experienced:
From our experience, here are a few ways to make the adoption process easier:
Your child is just that, a child
There are challenges with adopted children that aren’t as apparent with biological children. In our case, there is the race issue (that we will always worry about and have had to deal with), night terrors, effects of cleft lip/palate (surgeries, delayed speech, doctor visits and dental work).
Keep in mind, your child is just that, a child. All children have their challenges, as we have seen with Cole. He is an amazing little guy and we love him unconditionally. However, he is still a six year old and acts like any other six year old. There are tears but also lots of love, laughter, hugs, and kisses, too. He is our pride and joy and we wouldn’t change a thing. He is our little miracle. We realize this is true for all parents, but to us, after all of the tears, prayers, anxiety and paperwork, we feel like the most blessed family on Earth.
With a combined 275 years of experience, Children’s Home Society of Minnesota and Lutheran Social Service of Minnesota serve children and families through adoption, child welfare, and family preservation. We are driven by the understanding that a child in a safe, nurturing home is a child who thrives. We work to give every child security, opportunity and a loving fa...Learn more, see kids, or contact agency 1605 Eustis St. Minnesota
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