Soon we will be celebrating both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day.  For those in the adoption process,  emotions run high. Like most holidays,  particular businesses depend on these appointed days for their livelihood. We can’t blame them for the heartache many of us feel at these times. The people creating sentimental and funny messages for these cards are not connecting with those who are waiting for a child. If they were,  the card might read something like this:

“Some days are dark and even quite sad
My husband really wants to be a dad
And being a mom is my heart’s greatest ache
I daydream about it whenever I wake
And when I’m sleeping,  my  are enfolding
A precious baby that I dream that I am holding
So tired of waiting in a long endless line
When will it happen?.....please send me a sign
We’re good and we’re kind,  what more should we do
To become loving parents,  if only I knew”

There are also lots of children in this world who would love give a card to their very own mom and dad. Some of them are three years old and still learning how to talk,  but no one is spending time teaching them.  Others are six years old and losing their baby teeth,  but no one makes a fuss over them. There are children who have never seen a beach or  been to a birthday party. If one of them could write a Mother or Father’s Day card it might read:

“Wish I had a mom this year
To hold my hand or dry my tears
When I’m tired at night and ready for bed
I dream of someone stroking my head
And saying “I love you” won’t seem like a riddle
But I doubt it will happen cause I’m no longer little.

A dad could help me learn and play
And make me laught on a rainy day
I'd be a good child to love and to raise
I'd show them my love in so many ways"

I’m not much of a poet,  but you get my message.  Hard as it is to wait for a child,  it’s a great deal harder for children to wait for a family.  So,  think about this if you’re ready to become a parent and the wait seems like it will take forever. You could very well be a parent by this time next year if you can open your heart and home to a child who needs you even more than you need him or her.  Give it some thought.....