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There are five people in our family
There are five people in our family: Gail and I, two
daughters, and one son. All of our children are from China. Our son is the
youngest, and his name is Mao-Han. We had already adopted two girls from China,
Emily and Carrie. They had made us a family, and we were very content. We did
not start having a family until we were older, only planned on having two
children, and were very happy with two girls. We had no thoughts of adopting
another child.
With each of the adoptions of our two girls, Gail and I were impressed with Wide
Horizons, the relationship that they had built with the Chinese authorities, and
how well the trips were organized. For the first trip, we were very anxious
about being parents, about going to China, about meeting Emily-Rose Xiaoman
Bergan for the first time, about the process of adoption, about traveling. The
people who went with us on the trip are now our family; our China family. We
love them all, and we have huge family reunions. With the second trip, to adopt
Carrie, there was not a bit of anxiety, and we brought another beautiful person
into our lives. Our China family doubled in size. Life was good.
One quiet Sunday afternoon Gail was reading the Wide Horizons
newsletter and saw pictures of waiting children. One picture was of Mao-Han, a
young boy with albinism. People with albinism do not have much pigment in their
skin and hair, and thus appear very fair. They also tend to have low vision. I
have albinism and am legally blind. This was a condition which Gail and I were
intimately familiar with. In many ways having albinism has not hindered me. I am
a physician, work for a large university developing new forms of therapy for
people who have cancer, am married to someone whom I love very much, and have a
wonderful family. In other ways, it has been very frustrating. I cannot drive,
so Gail gets stuck doing all the driving.
Gail took one look at Mao-Han's picture, and her response was
innate and instantaneous. "Let's adopt him", she said. We already had two
children, and though we loved them deeply, we were just barely coping with the
amount of work that was involved. I initially thought, one of us in the family
already has a disability; that is enough. To adopt another child, particularly
one who would bring a disability into the family, would just be too much. The
remainder of the weekend passed without incident.
I had never really thought about being around someone else
like me, who had the same problems. I thought of all the problems Mao-Han would
have, of all the stares from strangers he would endure, and all the difficulties
he would encounter, as he went through life. I thought about what the impact
would be of having yet another person in the family who had physical
limitations. My initial thoughts of all of this were not very positive nor
pleasing, although I could not verbalize it at the time. I really did not
understand these feelings myself.
However, there he was in that picture, on our table, looking
right at us. And he needed a home. And we sure understood his problem. And he
might just fit right into our family after all, and it might be good for all of
us if he did. We decided we would just call Wide Horizons to just get a little
more information. Nothing more. Well, you know what happens when you start
walking down a path. The trip to China was fantastic, as usual, and our China
family grew once again.
Mao-Han is in fact a true miracle child. Everything about him
is a miracle. He was in the Fuzhou orphanage for four years. They have 225
children, and not an abundance of money. However, it was apparent that the
children were loved, well taken care of, and were given as normal a life as is
possible. Mao-Han is a testament to that. He is a beautiful, loving little boy.
Mao-Han looked very different from the other Chinese
children. However, because he was so loving and fun to be around, every time the
governor of the Fujian Province came to town, he would make a point of stopping
in to pay a visit to Mao-Han. After we met Mao, we spent a week in the city of
Fuzhou, where almost every place we went, we would hear someone call Mao-Han,
and come running to him.
Mao is home with us now, and he is doing great. He was four
when we adopted him, and spoke fluent Chinese. Mao could understand most of what
we were saying within three weeks, and by three months could speak a lot of
English. He fits right into our family, and gets along great with the girls. All
of my baggage about what problems he may have in life is out the window. Mao
continues to be lovable and fun, and everyone wants to be around him. He
overcame miracle odds in China, then traveled to the other side of the world,
and continues to work miracles. He is, in fact, the miracle child. We feel so
blessed that he has joined our family, and cannot imagine life without him.
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